Every time a suitor enters a young person's life, instead of joy and excitement, feelings of anxiety and fear about the future arise. This feeling is not only due to the fear of marriage but also because of the reminder of bitter experiences that may be repeated in a shared life. "What if my spouse criticizes me constantly like my family does, and I feel inadequate again?" This sentence reflects the inner voice of many young people who have developed a lack of self-confidence due to continuous criticism from their parents.
Perfectionism and Constant Criticism
Experts believe that perfectionist behaviors and frequent criticisms from parents can sow the seeds of feeling inadequate in children. Over time, this feeling becomes a serious barrier in making important life decisions. Young people growing up in such conditions find it difficult to approach the stage of marriage due to fear of rejection and feelings of inadequacy.
This fear intensifies especially during the engagement phase. Children may focus on recalling the criticisms and faults they have received from their families instead of concentrating on the positive aspects of this stage. This can lead to a vicious cycle where the individual never feels good enough, both in relation to themselves and to others.
Conclusion
It seems that awareness of these feelings and their roots can be the first step towards improving the situation. Making decisions about marriage, as one of the most important stages of life, requires self-confidence and a sense of adequacy. Without this feeling, young people may shy away from establishing healthy and stable relationships. Ultimately, to break this cycle, support and understanding from families and society are needed so that children can look to the future with greater confidence.
